2020: Caregiver, Why Complain? vs. Finding Caregiving Solutions? Are You Taking Care of Yourself? Then Vs. Now

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2015 Before
With 2020 After Updates…

Then Vs. Now

Are You Taking Care of Yourself?

“While interviewing more than fifteen hundred caregivers nationwide, I was amazed that they all gave responses that were similar to mine when I asked them the question, “What would you do differently?” We’re so busy caring for our loved ones that we forget how important our own self-care is. As a result, caregivers end up with all sorts of physical ailments, such as back and neck problems. We even end up in the hospital.” Carolyn A. Brent  

Question (s) for the Caregiver: Are You? And, Will You?

  1. Putting your life on hold and thinking there isn’t anyone who can help you vs. embracing the season with your loved one and knowing that it is not forever.
  2. Not getting enough rest when you know you need it vs. taking the time to recharge your mind, body, and spirit.
  3. Not asking your grown children, grandchildren, extended family members or close friends for help vs. asking for help.
  4. Not having enough money to care for your loved one vs. researching the available monetary assistance in your state.
  5. Not knowing about the health care system and how it works vs. contacting your state’s department of aging for resources to help guide you.
  6. Allow room in your heart for romance, and do not feel guilty when it happens.
  7. Take the time and effort to learn how to love yourself again.
  8. Create some kind of health support system for yourself.
  9. Allow yourself to feel sexy and embrace your sex appeal as a caregiver.
  10. Get the help you need to feel good, and stop relying on over-the-counter drugs and alcohol to make the pain go away.
  11. Have a girls’ or guys’ night out on the town, when you are not in a caregiving role.DSC_7183
  12. Nurture your spiritual life.
  13. Seek ways to release tension (meditating, exercising or engaging in another physical activity).
  14. Give yourself permission to cry if you need to cry, and know that you do not have to hold your emotions in.
  15. Know that the effort you put into caring for your loved one is the same effort you must put into yourself.
  16. Go on a vacation.

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Are You Taking Care of Yourself
Spiritually, Emotionally, and Physically?

The Self-Care Journey–2015,  Carolyn at Age 57

Faith Walk

Chapter 10: Taking care of yourself — when you are a caregiver

Everything you need to know to ensure that your elderly loved one is being properly cared for — while taking care of yourself.

Update: 2020

Caregiver, God Will Take Care of YOU!
Put Your Trust In God

Great Is Thy Faithfulness

Results of Self-Care 
Update: 2020 
Carolyn at Age 63, “The Self-Care Journey has No-End-Date.”

Then Vs. Now

Self-Care Is A Process and Has NO-END-DATE
Words of Wisdom from My Dad

“No Excuse. Find Away. Believe for a Miracle. Press on till you Win. Don’t Quit! “ Pastor, William L.Brent, T.h.D.

Note from the Author

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Dear valued Readers and Supporters—what a GREAT journey it has been over the past twelve years of sharing—exploring—exchanging—reaching out—and touching each other’s lives! I could not have done any of this work without your support. Along with my unshakeable faith I have in God and the love that my father’s spirit brings to me—that has given me the vision, mission, purpose, and passion for impacting lives globally.

In addition, the creation of a remarkable health & wellness catalog—with the focus on important life matters we all face in life—while tapping into those resources, you may not know you have.  

With a new year just around the corner, I am looking forward to seeing more unique and exciting opportunities globally for the health & wellness of family caregivers, Baby boomers, Millennials, Generation X, and more, in 2020. Yes, we are all Abundantly blessed—together, we can look forward to entering into another exciting New Year.

Legislation Update

What’s New?

I am proud to announce that all of my hard work was worth the long wait and heartache while making a difference in the world. Stay tuned— to new policies in the fall of 2020. Praise God!


In September 2007, I began my journey, and I’ve dedicated my life—to the health, safety, and stability of our veterans and the aging population. And the protection of the “law-abiding” family caregivers on the backend of caregiving— who have dedicated their lives caring for their loved ones.

During that time, I’ve met with family caregivers from across the country, and numerous lawmakers from both Federal and State agencies talking about the problems family caregivers face while caring for loved ones. I have presented a step-by-step, cost-effective, and straightforward solutions that will make a tremendous difference amongst the aging population, as well as all ages.

I have committed my life to educate humanity—globally, with educational-focused based content. To date, I’ve written eight books, with five more in the making.

The Caregiver’s Companion: Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for Yourself is in the Library of Congress, the libraries of Harvard, Stanford, Johns Hopkins, and numerous other medical centers and universities. Designated as an Editor’s Choice, Carolyn A. Brent received the review of “excellent” by the Library Journal. Borrow A Copy Today!

Up Close

I want to take a moment to share with you a short memoir of CareGiverStory, Inc., Grandpa’s Dream, Across All Ages, and Deep Beauty so that you will have a greater appreciation for the work. Yes, it All Adds Up! Also, there is a movie in the making…

History of Grandpa’s Dream

In 2007, I made a promise to my father’s spirit that I would work closely with the State Legislators to assist in the creation of new laws and policies for safeguards for family caregivers… 

Since then, I have been consistently contacting and meeting with the California Department of Aging and Assembly Members, Members of Congress, and policymakers to pass a bill to support law-abiding caregivers from adult sibling rivalry in connection with the end of life of a parent.  

The Process

In 2007, after twelve years of being a caregiver for my father, I started focusing on creating change in the current laws to protect the law-abiding caregiver. During that time, I discovered that there were no books on the market on the subject of adult sibling rivalry in connection with the end of life of a parent.  So, I wrote the first book of the subject: Why Wait? The Baby Boomers’ Guide to Preparing Emotionally, Financially, and Legally for a Parent’s Death. A subsequent book, The Caregiver’s Companion: Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for Yourself is on the shelves of leading libraries, medical centers, and universities throughout the world. 

Across All Ages:  Health & Wellness

Secondly, I focused on my physical body. I was committed to learning how to manage my chronic pain without becoming dependent on opioids or other pharmaceutical drugs. I began researching sports medicine doctors with specific expertise in kinesiology, exercise physiology, and sports psychology theory. I also studied fitness development for athletic performance, treatments, and sports nutrition.

I started working around my injuries by integrating the therapeutic and preventive use of exercise. Then I took it to the next level and began training as a bodybuilder. I won first place in the Age 60 category and became a National Physique Committee (NPC) Masters Women’s Figure Champion, in 2016.

Deep Beauty

Finally, I focused on the body, mind, and spirit connection. I discovered a wellness institute with credentialed, trained professionals to help me master self-healing. I learned how to meditate mindfully. I began practicing daily the power of transmutation, an act that shifts anger to forgiveness and physical pain to physical wellness.

Over the past twelve years, I have been working tirelessly to reclaim authority over my mental, emotional, and physical health. The road I’ve traveled has been a long one as I transformed my life through self-care.

It started with an essential first step. I became the authority of my life.

What do I mean by this? You have probably figured out by now that I like clarity in language. It puts us on the same page so we can work together to achieve goals. So let’s take a look at the word “authority.”

The word has two meanings. The first is to be an expert on something, as in “She is an authority on eighteenth-century quilting techniques” or “He is an authority on the music of Bruce Springsteen.” Usually, being an authority relates to a specific skill or knowledge set.

Can you imagine anything more important than becoming an authority on your own life? To understand what makes your body feel best or how to find a serene place when you are agitated? To have in-depth knowledge of your past and present so you can move forward into the future? To know what you need to keep yourself healthy, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually? What could possibly be more deserving of your efforts?

The other meaning of “authority” is the power to command thought, opinion, or behavior, as in “the president has authority in the United States” or “my mom was the authority in our home.” This definition is equally relevant to transforming your life through self-care because it means that you have the power to command your thoughts and behavior. You can act on what you think and what you do.

You can take back your power—your authority—from things and people you have given it away to. You may have given away that power to a bad relationship or job. You may have given it away to doctors, without questioning. Learn more: Visit: amazon.com/author/carolynabrent 

A Special THANK YOU!

Also, a special shout-out to the five-publishing companies who have published and marketed my written works to public libraries, colleges, and universities worldwide. 

As a direct result of “team” work, my written work is available “just for you” in libraries, universities, and retail outlets worldwide. The publishing companies are as follows. In no particular order.

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• Rowman & Littlefield 

• Harlequin

• Harper Collins Australia  

• Harlequin Canada 

• Thorndike Press

• Gale Publishing (LARGE PRINT)

• Grandpa’s Dreams / CareGiverStory Inc. 

Endorsed by

• Library Journal 

• American Library Association

• Booklist

• Proud to be in The Library of Congress


Many individuals deserve to be acknowledged for the support they have given me in life and in the preparation of my eight books. A special thank you to the most exhilarating people in the world whose contributions have broadened my worldview: International Federation of Bodybuilding and Fitness (IFBB) professionals; national thought leaders in the pharmaceutical, science, and political arenas; Dave Ramsey, financial genius; Dr. Wayne Dyer, self-development and spiritual growth leader; and Kathy Palokoff, author, educator, and chief igniter.

I’d like to extend my gratitude to the following professionals who have contributed to my health, wellness, and financial lifestyle journey: Dr. Delia Weiss; Dr. John Webster, orthopedic surgeon; Dr. Perry Bard, chiropractor; Jessa Carter, PA-C; Dr. Nathan Hare; Dr. Oscar Jackson; Dr. Sean Feezell; Dr. Kirsten Fleischmann; and financial professionals Duane Thompson, Kevin A. Guttman, and Gregg Nevills. 

A special thanks to the men and women who shared their personal stories or were interviewed for the purposes of my books.

A special thank you to the editorial teams, marketing experts, graphic artists, my literary agent, national TV anchors, talk show host, social media platforms, organizations, and the countless contributors who have shared their incredible stories and expertise over the past thirteen years. 

Most importantly, I give thanks to God and my father, Pastor William L. Brent, Th.D., for without them, this body of work would not be possible.

To my dad, Pastor William L. Brent, ThD: I will be forever grateful to have been blessed with him, the most wonderful and amazing parent I could have ever hoped or asked for. His words of wisdom: “No excuses. Find a way. Believe for a miracle. Press on till you win. Don’t quit!”

A Tribute To My Father 

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Pastor William L. Brent, Th.D., is the inspiration behind the vision, mission, and purpose of the creation of Caregiver’s Story Incorporated & Grandpa’s Dream. An organization with educational base content for spiritual growth, health, wellness, love, and restoration.

Grandpa’s Dream provides vital knowledge for the care and welfare of sick and disabled people and supports the mental, physical, and emotional well-being of caregivers. 

 Pastor William L. Brent earned a bachelor’s degree in agriculture from Langston University in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, and certified in divinity from Victory Bible College, Tulsa, Oklahoma. He earned a master’s and a doctorate in theology from International Seminary, Plymouth, Florida, and Senior Pastor of the New Life Christian Center, Lamar, Colorado.

 Pastor Brent lived a life of love for humanity as he ministered the Word of God to people of all ages and backgrounds worldwide. He declares, “God is The God of A Second Chance.

” Moreover, we ought to “Love thy neighbor as thy self.” (Leviticus 19:18).

 His ministry teaches, “God has created us in his own image” (Genesis 1:27), and he understands everything about us. God knows what is in our hearts, mind, and what is deeply rooted in our souls. He knows our needs, fears, insecurities, worries, and vulnerabilities. Likewise, God knows the desires of our hearts.

 In this book, Amazing Grace, Pastor Brent explains how God ministers to us— through his unchanging Word. This book guides the reader step-by-step on how to apply the Word of God in every area of life—every day, with the complete understanding that God gave us his Word— not only to reveal Himself to us but also to care for us.

Pastor Brent had a special anointing with the spiritual gift of “healing”—by the “laying on of hands” ( Acts 8:14–19) to the sick, elderly, disabled, and he was the voice to the voiceless and comfort to all that knew him.

Today, his vision and teachings continue, as he passed on the gauntlet to his daughter, Carolyn A. Brent, an American writer, elder care & caregiver advocate. Through Pastor Brent’s teachings— together, their written work is located in the Library of Congress, the libraries of Harvard, Stanford, Johns Hopkins, and numerous other medical centers, universities, and retail outlets worldwide.

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8th book written by Award-winning American writer, Carolyn A. Brent, MBA

Cover by Jen Huppert

Learn more about Dr. Brent’s ministry: https://www.carolynabrent.com/about-us/second-chances/

Catalog: https://www.amazon.com/-/e/B005T5TB7Y


What’s New?

Coming– Spring 2020~

Amazing Grace: God Is The God of A Second Chance

Tribute to My Father Pastor, William L. Brent, Th.D. Memoir of His Biblical Teachings

8th book written by Award-winning American writer, Carolyn A. Brent, MBA

About the Author

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Carolyn A. Brent is an American author, bodybuilder, and elder-care legislation advocate. She is best known as an award-winning advocate and the author of the best-selling books.

Carolyn’s most impressive accomplishment has been her expansive body of work. The award-winning and best-selling The Caregiver’s Companion: Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for Yourself is in the Library of Congress, the libraries of Harvard, Stanford, Johns Hopkins, and numerous other medical centers and universities. Designated as an Editor’s Choice, she received the review of “excellent” by the Library Journal. 


RICHMOND, Va. – Award-winning author Carolyn A. Brent returned to Virginia This Morning to share some tips from her latest book, “Transforming Your Life Through Self-Care.” Her talk focused on the real connection between health and money. For more information, you can visit: https://www.carolynabrent.com/

Reviewed by Booklist, The American Library Association

Book Review: Like a good coach, Brent (The Caregiver’s Companion, 2015) inspires action. At 61, she is a buff, beautiful bodybuilder who transformed her life by leaving a cheating spouse, going to the gym, controlling her spending, and eating healthy food. She wants to empower others to follow in her disciplined footsteps. In her how-to guide, each chapter focuses on a different area, such as exercising or developing a meal plan, and includes questions such as, “Are you eating foods that are laced with preservatives, GMOs, and other harmful chemicals?” She offers a surprising amount of health advice for an MBA, though usually, it’s pretty basic. Skeptics may roll their eyes when she talks about “eating to blood type” or when she tells them they need to live in their “own divine light.” But she also quotes the Chinese saying, “If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.” Brent’s positive, inspiring messages about self-love, giving back, and rejoicing should resonate with many. — Booklist

BRENT is a National Physique Committee (NPC) Masters Women’s Figure Champion at age 60. She is an expert on both self-care and caregiving; she is the founder of Across All Ages and two nonprofit organizations, CareGiverStory Inc. and Grandpa’s Dream. Carolyn’s research and an extensive collection of published works have made her a notable figure in her field.



Stop living in the poor me world and take purposeful action with discipline and determination to practice self-care, no matter what your age. This book shows you how to become your own caregiver by tapping into your deep beauty and inner worth and transforming yourself through exercise, diet, meditation, and getting rid of toxic relationships.


More than ever before, people are living longer with the expectation of enjoying healthier and more vibrant lives. This motivational self-help book outlines the necessary self-care actions to become your own wellness advocate and achieve success in your new lifestyle and wellness journey. Carolyn A. Brent brings fresh perspectives and cutting edge research to areas such as undertaking blood type diets, revving up your immune system, dealing with stress, starting exercise programs based on body types, and more.

Brent’s step-by-step guide will have you excited with your life-changing results when you are tapping into your deep beauty and inner worth. It offers a blueprint for how to live your best life at any age, with vitality, wisdom, and grace. With clear and flexible examples, Transforming Your Life Through Self-Care will guide you to take ownership of your self-care and tap into those resources, you may not know you have.  

Her other books include: 

Amazons bestseller Why Wait? The Baby Boomers’…

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No alt text provided for this imageGod Gave Me more Wisdom, Greater Vision, and Significant Knowledge about Life for my Christmas presents this year. Lookout 2020…Here I come! Deep Beauty.

Abundant Blessings and remember— “Make Life A Family Affair.” 

Again, Thank you very much.

Sincerely, Carolyn A. Brent, MBA


About Carolyn Brent

Dr. Carolyn A. Brent, is an award-winning bestselling author and a National Physique Committee (NPC) Masters Women's Figure Champion at age 60. She is an expert on both self-care and caregiving; she is the founder of Across All Ages and two nonprofit organizations, CareGiverStory Inc. and Grandpa's Dream. Carolyn's research and extensive collection of published works have made her a notable figure in her field. For seventeen years, she worked for some of the world's leading pharmaceutical companies and has worked as a volunteer at various assisted-living facilities. Her award-winning books include The Caregiver's Companion: Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for Yourself and The Caregiver's Legal Survival Guide: Navigating through the Legal System.

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